Guilty Conscience
Heartbreak – a 5-Step Plan for Overcoming It
Brokenheartedness due to breakup happens to every man from time to time. Whether or not you’re experiencing this misery now, you should read this article so you’ll know how to get over a broken heart. How can you go on after a breakup? Every purpose you had in life walked out the door with her! Don’t be pessimistic – understanding and following these five steps will help you to get your life back on track and permit you to re-enter the wonderful world of dating! The severity of the pain you’re feeling will have a great impact on how long you remain at each stage of this process.
Stage One: Acknowledgment
After she’s walked out on you, you’ve got to accept that she’s not coming back. She’s moved on; the relationship is over. She’s not around for you anymore – not in person, and not on the phone. This is one of the worst times a man goes through, because it really is like someone died, and even worse. You feel the same pain as when someone dies, but you also feel the hurt of betrayal, because she didn’t die, she just left you. Sometimes it seems as if all you can do is constantly replay in your mind, over and over again, that last scene where she told you she was leaving you. But now it’s time to work through that pain and recognize that the relationship’s over. They say that time heals all wounds, and nowhere is this more true than in dealing with heartbreak. Every day that goes by, every morning that you see the sun shining outside your window, brings you closer and closer to the recognition that your girl is gone, your relationship is over – yet you’re still alive.
Stage Two: Grieving is natural and necessary
You’ve finally accepted the facts – she’s gone for good. You feel an oppressive sense of loss, and you may feel like crying. Go ahead – it’s a natural and typical response to tragic loss, and it will help relieve some of the emotional pressure that’s built up.
Stage Three: Outrage
At this stage of the process, believe it or not, the natural, normal, typical feeling you’re experiencing is anger. Facts are immaterial – you had a life, a good life together, and then she ruined everything by walking out. You did everything you could to make it work and yet she didn’t appreciate it – she abandoned you. Your wrath is normal – but it’s something you cannot actually take out on her. This is one time you’ve got to control and channel your emotions carefully.
Stage Four: Is it time, don’t you think, to start meeting new women?
How do you feel? At this point, you should be over your grief and over your sense of loss. If the anger is decreasing, it may be time again to venture forth and start meeting people again – especially women. You know the old saying, “There are plenty of good fish in the sea.” A walk through any suburban mall at any hour of the day will confirm that! And of all the women you may see there, so many are looking for some special man they can be close with, someone they can share their lives with.
Stage Five: Free at last!
Finally, you’re free of the emotional bondage to the failed relationship. You’re as free as a bird now because you’re also no longer bound to her by any special feelings. Sure, you may feel friendship or even affection for her (although these feelings usually come later on), but it doesn’t bother you to hear news of her, and you don’t feel guilty when you talk with another woman or take her out to dinner. This is the stage they’re talking about when they say “Get on with your life!” You’re come back, back to the swing of things. Enjoy!
If you found this article helpful and would like to learn other ways to help you through your breakup, check out How to Get Over Heartbreak, How to Survive a Breakup, and Ex Squared System.
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